Being in love with them. It’s the most common reason people stop being friends. When you become best friends with someone of your sexual preference, it is almost guaranteed that you will fall in love with them. You will try to fight it but you will never succeed. It’s what happens when someone is that nice to you, understands you perfectly, cares about you more than anything else, and would drop anything to be there for you. It will start fine.
They will just be your best friend, you will tell them everything, and vice versa. But then there will be one moment that changes everything. You will reach your breaking point, and somehow they will be the ones there to piece you back together.
- Knowing each other and getting close: This will sound uncanny but this is the first and foremost reason why friendships and even other relationships don’t last as they are expected to. The truth is the more intimately you know someone, the more clearly you’ll see their flaws, insecurities & vulnerability and it’s all great for a while but then you start drifting away because people tend to escape after knowing you and they just stop trying. That is the way it is. This is why marriages fail, why children are abandoned and friendships do not last.
- Because they are not your friends: This is the most mundane reason. Well, the irony is that the friendship doesn’t exist in the first place for one party but though it seems to end for the other one. So here it goes, people are not your friends. They are there just to emphasize your loneliness. And I bet, some try to be friends to know your weaknesses and afterward use them against you.
- Trust issues: Trust plays an essential role in all relationships but not all have the guts to be loyal. It takes a lot of truth to gain trust, but one lie to lose it all. People lie, bitch, gossip about you on your back & lastly backstab you. For some backstabbing is a hobby because they are not capable of maintaining a healthy relationship leaving you betrayed and broken.
- Boredom: Yes, people get bored of you. They are no more interested in your life. So, they abruptly stop talking, start ignoring you and make excuses.
- When they find someone else: This often happens after they get bored of you. So, people choose someone else over you because maybe they find them more interesting or compatible than you or they feel they don’t vibe with you anymore. They just give up on you. That’s it. There goes the so, called friendship down the gutter.
- Other Reasons: There are hell lot of reasons why friendships end; Poor communication leading to misunderstandings, Jealousy, Fight over girls and in boys and over boys among girls (the most stupid reason), and the list goes on.
- Know when to let go. A friendship doesn’t have to go sour for both of you to fall apart. Most times, friends part amicably. Both of you are still friends, but you’re just not that close. They no longer call you in the middle of the night. They don’t text you immediately after something crazy has happened to them. It happens. And that’s ok!
Sometimes you’re replaced, sometimes you left them. Sometimes, it ends because something has changed and both of you can’t go back to the way it was. It’s ok. You don’t have to beat yourself up over it. Take it like “oh, now I know.”
- Lack of communication: Two people can stop being friends if someone moves away, or you end up going to two different schools and you don’t see them as often, But this doesn’t even have to be as large scale as that it could simply be not telling someone something or just assuming something without asking.
- Too much communication: But then again there is the opposite of that if you talk all the time it is possible that you lose interest in that person and therefore fall out of talking to them.
- Too many differences: In trying to get to know your friend on a deeper level you might realize that this person holds very different values and you don’t connect with what they think this could lead to anger.
And in the end, there’s nothing left except guilt and regret so in Friendship or any relationship you must tell truth always if your friend asks you anything.
You must keep the trust.