Maturity came a little late to me than normal people. I was childish till I landed in the Corporate world. I guess most of us are. Anyhow, It has been 3 years and I have learned significant lessons in life some of which I do follow and some of which I am looking forward to.
Here, are some of the life lessons learned that I would like to teach others.
- Social networking is such a waste of time. This is coming from a guy who is addicted to the usage of social networking apps. By now, I have fallen so deeply into this trap that It will take some time to come out of it. But yes, One thing I can tell you is if you start tracking the amount of time you spend on social networking, you will find out that an average person spends 4–6 hours on a phone that too on Social networking apps. 4–5 hours can be way more productive if spent on the right hobby or a task.
- Investing money for a stable future. I have recently realized that spending money on different products or costly food or expensive clothes is not so worth saving money for a better future. The right age to save is when you are in your early stage of earning so that it becomes a habit.
- Holding on to a relationship that does not exist. I have seen people holding onto a relation which they do not realize that they are the only ones in it. Holding onto a crush or a liking or unrequited love for a very long time, when you know it is not going anywhere, is a waste of time. Instead, invest that time in yourself and figure out where you lack and where you need to improve.
- That (Life is Miserable)” hoax The important lesson that I learned last year is everyone around me especially the people on social media putting up memes regarding how miserable corporate life or in usual life is. While they fail to realize that If you are having a stable job if you are earning well if you are having three meals a day, you already are living a good life. So, why demean the life you have? Everyone’s life has some ups and downs but that does not make your life miserable. It is the mindset and environment around you which decide what your life could be. Life is beautiful if seen through the right set of eyes.
- Friendship comes second after a family. Friendship is a valuable relationship that needs not be nurtured with time. But, Apart from family, If someone stands out with you in your hard times, It’s your friends. Never lose a good friend over anything. In our lives, all of us become busy at a point that It is very difficult to maintain contact with people we were close to. But a simple text message twice or thrice a week or a call of 5 minutes a week surely won’t harm anyone. You might destress yourself as well as the other person.
- Goals are important. Most of the people around me tell me that they do not know what are they going to do in the future and they will let the future decide. While this may work out for some people, In my opinion, Finding and setting up a long-term goal and working on it to achieve that goal is very important. If you are in your 25’s, You will know what it means.
- Spend some time with yourself. This is the most important lesson of all. Everyone should set up a period to spend some time with his/her self either engaging in a hobby or traveling solo or just taking a deep breath without worrying about daily life problems. Spending time with yourself makes you positive and happy. Happiness comes from within.
- Set goals. write them down. recording your goals will make you 100% more likely to achieve them. Write short, medium, and long-term goals and actively track your progress against them. It will give you a sense of achievement which will inspire you and spur you on.
- Be more original. Following the status-quo may help you achieve short-term academic success, it might assist in enabling you to pass exams and get into university, but ultimately it is going to detrimentally affect your creativity. Take risks, spot chances, and dive in. Share your ideas and get feedback. Be brave.
- Put yourself out there. Meet people, reach out and talk to people; never be afraid to ask for advice. I never let somebody’s reputation scare me into submission. I’m a vehement believer in the adage that if you never ask you’ll never know and find this particularly true of those people who have ascended to the highest heights. I’ve exchange correspondence with everyone from Arianna Huffington, Bob Keiller, Gareth Williams, Adam Grant to name but a few. It’s worth remembering even the most successful among us are people too.
- Travel. Broaden your horizons, open your mind and deepen your well of exposure. Understand the idiosyncrasies between cultures and experience living. Go to the places on the periphery and understand the countries you visit. A resort with a pool and a sandy beach could be anywhere. Go to places and distill their true meaning and gain enlightenment. By understanding how different cultures and communities operate our lives are enriched with understanding, compassion, and appreciation for people unlike ourselves.
- Constantly evolve. Make at least one improvement that makes you better at something every single day. It sounds daunting, but improvements don’t have to be huge, they can be really small which incrementally leads to huge change. Think improving just 1% each day and build upon that every single day. Doing so has a dramatic effect and will make us 37x better, not 365% (3.65x) better at the end of the year. Wake up every day and ask yourself what is the 1% improvement I can change to make myself better personally and professionally.
Never wait for things. You need to fight to improve. Good things come to those who go out and get them, nobody achieved greatness waiting for it to find them.
- Don’t trust the wrong people: Aligning yourself with the wrong groups can set your career back years. Office politics are a thing and hitching your wagon to the right people can help you ascend dizzy heights quickly but be careful of the price you pay.
- Find mentorship: Finding a relevant mentor who can advise you on the things you should concentrate on, the things you should do, and the experiences you should seek.
At last, Life goes on, but it is not to be wasted. Try learning from life experiences. Try to learn as much as possible. Not everything that seems useless now will remain useless for your whole life. Accept your fault and responsibility.